My Alleged Husband-Chapter 949 - 842: Blame
"Dad, actually, the things I’m saying to you today aren’t meant to blame you. I just hope that you can truly reflect on whether what you’ve been doing is right or wrong, and whether you truly see my mom as your wife.
Think for yourself how much suffering and pain she has endured all these years. Yet, she’s never said a word about it because she knows she has to rely on her own efforts, step by step, until she can finally live a life different from others. I just don’t understand what kind of reason could make you so heartless to choose to hurt her like this.
She is your wife. She is not a god, let alone a Saint. She can’t continue to smile and act cheerful while being neglected by her own husband. Even I wouldn’t be able to do that. Why can’t you consider my mom’s predicament from her perspective? Why can’t you understand how exhausting and painful her life truly is?
If one day you suddenly realize that my mom has changed from the way she used to be, don’t try to blame others, and don’t think about pushing all the responsibility onto others. You should really think about how excessive your actions have been. You should reflect on what your behaviors have turned your family into. How could her evidence leave you completely indifferent? She’s struggling; she also wants to live a happy and joyful life. But what did we give her instead? Such a painful existence that crushed her deeply inside. She’s been hurt emotionally and can’t find joy anymore.
I hope every word I’ve spoken to you today sinks in. It’s precisely because you are my father that I dare to confront you without reservation. If you were someone else, I wouldn’t have shared such heartfelt words. Sometimes, you should consider things from other people’s perspectives and think about the consequences of your actions for the family. Maybe right now you think it doesn’t matter. But you drove your wife to the brink of depression, leading her to attempt suicide in the hospital because of decisions related to grandpa and grandma. Do you think that’s what a responsible husband should do?"
"Child, I know you’re saying all this for the good of the family. I understand that you’re considering everyone’s well-being. But have you ever thought about how, sometimes, the words you say without realizing their impact can stir up great dissatisfaction and conflict among family members? Maybe what you said seems completely normal to me, but to others, it might not feel that way. Everyone in this family deals with things differently; everyone has their own path to walk.
No one waits idly for others to pave their way. Do you really think the path laid down by others is as stable as the one you walk yourself? No one can progress effortlessly toward their ideal life step by step like they’re climbing a ladder. You always think what you do is right, but perhaps in the eyes of others, everything you do is wrong. It’s only when you realize you’re never understood that the pain of being misunderstood truly sinks in.
You are my son. No matter where or when, you should understand my intentions as your father. I would never harm my own wife!
No matter how I try to explain, you simply won’t believe me. This incident was truly an accident. I didn’t want such things to happen to us, and I certainly didn’t want our family to endure such a heavy blow. But certain things are beyond my ability to foresee. Every decision I make is for the hope that we can all live happy and joyful lives.
But why is it that, in the end, I always end up causing you harm instead of giving you the life I hope for? Do you really think this is the outcome I wanted? If it weren’t for having absolutely no choice, do you think I would have come to this point? You know how much I wish my parents could return to my side—just like you wish grandpa and grandma could return to yours. It’s been years of longing, years of yearning for family bonds. They finally came back, and I don’t want anything more to go wrong. I want them to stay here peacefully. Was I wrong in doing this? Wasn’t I trying to ensure everyone gets the resolution they’ve been hoping for? Why is it that, as soon as mistakes happen, all the blame gets placed on me? Have you ever thought about whether you’ve had similar thoughts yourself?
You’re my son, and as your elder, I shouldn’t argue with you over every detail. I’ve always hoped those things would never happen. But some events cannot be anticipated or prevented. All we want is simple—a life where we can live happily and peacefully. Isn’t that more important than anything else? Yet you never reflect on how your own actions may lead to consequences. Just like what you claim has happened to me.
Do you know that I truly hope for you to live happily and joyfully? But the way you live every day—what kind of outcome has it brought you? Aren’t you tired of living this way? The hurt and pain you’ve caused me, I can never forget. But I’ve chosen to never speak of it, because I understand that there’s joy to be found in facing things with positivity.
My greatest wish is for you to be happy and joyful. As long as my son is happy and joyful, as long as my family is safe and well, then it doesn’t matter how much suffering or exhaustion I bear.
But in the end, I’ve realized that even when you give everything—when you take on every hardship to help fulfill the goals you’ve set for yourself or others—it gets seen as reckless and futile in your eyes. You haven’t given me a single result I can call good. You always think what you’ve received is the best there is, yet you forget to ask yourself whether living this way makes you tired or happy. Time and time again, you’ve placed all the blame for the mistakes on me as your father. If you truly care so much about your mom, why don’t you stay by her side all the time? I went out today purely to explore better treatment options for her. No one wanted these things to happen. Yet you’ve put all the responsibility squarely on me. Do you know how heartbroken I was at that moment?
I didn’t say anything at the time because I was anxious and scared too. But can’t you take a moment to reflect calmly afterward? Is that the tone you should use to speak to your father?"
